Sunday, April 11, 2010

Home Alone

"Be able to be alone.  Lose not the advantage of solitude,"--Sir Thomas Browne

Hubby is visiting a family member, and my son just left for work, so here I myself and loving it. There is no quiet like the quiet of being alone with oneself at home. Several years ago, I never thought I would hear myself talk about how much I value my solitude, but today, I find it absolutely essential to be in my home with no one around sometimes. I love my family, but there are just those times when I vitally need to be in and with my home alone. 

Throughout most of my life I was one of those people who had to be doing, who had to be with.  I just never knew what to do when left by myself so I would tag along to places I really didn't want to be...just for companionship. That's because I didn't know how to be with 'me'.  I didn't like being with me because that meant too much time to think. I was in such a bad space back then. I was so needy and so co-dependent that I actually almost drove hubby away.  I was just too clingy.  Thank goodness I have grown since then or I would have been ALONE.

So today, whenever the last person walks out and closes the door, I, and it seems as if my home, both breathe a simultaneous sigh.  There's just something about being by oneself, especially on a Sunday afternoon...the day before the workweek begins... that allows one to move slowly through the house, naked if I so choose, as I prepare to gather those parts of myself, my psyche,  that have become distributed elsewhere during the previous week while I was out there doing my life.  Being home alone allows me to pull that lost part of myself back into myself while I snuggle down in a known and loved environment to regroup and prepare to participate in the active aspects of our lives.

To me, the supreme luxury is having a whole day at home with myself.  But, I'll take what downtime I can get for even one hour a lone with a good book can do to return us to balance.  How do you handle your alone time?


  1. I love solitude too and feel a great need for it. It's my "free time" from everybody else's expectations.

  2. I look at alone time as though we're plugging ourselves in to recharge our batteries. As women we are the caregivers and often times we are last on a long list. When I get some alone time, I like to watch trashy tv, surf the web, sit on my patio, read, eat....basically, whatever the hell I want! tee hee hee.

  3. I adore my alone time. I can't remember the last time that I had the house to myself. Between kids, grandkids and hubby, that just doesn't seem to happen. But when it does, oh....
    So glad to hear that you got your house all to yourself, and enjoyed it too.


  4. Mary, I just have to say I love the pictures you put on your blogs and the music, they are beautiful.