Thursday, March 25, 2010

A Reason, A Season, A Lifetime

Good morning from New York City.  Odd, I am sitting here at work listening to the sound of bagpipes coming from somewhere outside.  There is no parade, so evidently someone has it playing on their radio.  Whoever it is, they are giving me a lot of peace this morning for I love the sound of bagpipes.

Hey, I have to share this.  Hubby got a call from a couple people at his old job.  It seems that they are laying everyone off and closing down the program.  They say that December, January, and February have been the slowest months money coming in.  Hmm!!!  Seems to coincide with hubby's release from the place, and we both knew it was going to happen.  Each month they would give an award to the person who saw the most clients and hubby won it every month...except for those months he took vacation time.  I'm sad that so many are losing their jobs, but now we are looking at hubby's release differently.  I am a firm believer in 'everything happens for a reason', and the way I see it is, the job he has now would not have been available now...and with all of those people out of work, the job market will be slimmer at this time.

Last night I reread my past life chart, and was thinking about all of the people who have crossed my path during this lifetime.  There is a wonderful poem which I am sure all of you have read, but I would love to post it anyway.

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.  When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.

When someone comes in your life for a REASON it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.  They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.  They may seem like a godsend, for they are!  They are there for a reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.  

Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.  The prayer you sent up has been answered, and now it is time to move on.

(As I wrote the above, tears came to my eyes for, although I know there are many who have come into my life for a Reason, only one stands out clearly to me today.  As many of you know, my parents had been terribly strict with me and had me grounded throughout most of my teenage years. I realize now that, because of this, when I reached 18,  I not only lacked appropriate socialization skills, but I was spiraling out of control. My favorite song was "Wild Thing."  Life was nothing but one big party.  Hang out all night, every night.  Party, party, party.  Lose a job, find another one. You get my drift?  It was then that a handsome young man came into my life.  Bobby was a mature 21, I was a childlike 18; he was so, so handsome. And he was interested in me.  My entire life turned around in an instant; I was so much in love.  All of my nightly running around stopped, and I settled down to work and doing all the right things.  Went and got my GED, and started looking into vocational schools...but then, he was gone from my life as quickly as he had entered.  Bobby had driven his car off the road and died.  They say he did it deliberately, but I could never believe that. What would life had been like had he not died?  I'll never know, but I can wonder.)

Then people come into your life for a SEASON,  Because your turn has come to share, grow, and learn.  They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh.  They may teach you something you have never done.  They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.  Believe it!  It is real!  But, only for a season.

(Hubby's mother came into my life for a SEASON, and during that short time, she taught me what it was like to have a mother...for she thought and treated me as one of her own.  We spoke two different languages there, but we understood each other...for love is a language that we all understand.)

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.  Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.  It is said that love is blind, but friendship is clairvoyant.

(Thank you, hubby, for coming into my life and teaching me the most valuable lesson of all...of learning to love myself.)

How much of the poem can you relate to?

(Gosh, I didn't mean to be so sentimental.  I think that, although the above may be sad, it also shows that no matter what, there will always be some special people in our lives and we must cherish them while we still can)


  1. Thank you for sharing this. I have someone that came into my life and has left and I have been upset. But now I am thinking they came into my life when I needed them and now that I don't, it was time for them to go.

    Thanks again.

  2. Well, just look what those bagpipes set off in you today! I've always loved that poem too, and what it says is very true. And how about your husband and his timely departure from his old workplace! Wow! Talk about a blessing in disguise, eh?

  3. just beautiful...i like to think that there is a reason for everything

  4. Great poem. A lot of truth in it. "Aint" bagpipes wonderful. I love em two. X.

  5. Your words are oh so true Mary...And reading about your teen years...sounds like re reading mine..and I too believe all things happen for a reason we may not understand at the time. But eventually it makes sense. That includes people. I'm so glad we met...
    Did you receive the ecard I sent on your Birthday??

  6. I really like this saying/poem too. It makes you appreciate those relationships that pass, when perhaps you didn't know why they ended. I used to think "if they were just going to leave, why bother?" But there is so much to be learned from our fellow men/women. So many opportunities to grow.

    Very happy that hubby is working and didn't have to go through this trial with the rest of the old employees. I feel for them.

  7. What about the ones in Real Life, about whom we know, that it's time to move on... from? But they don't seem to see it? -sigh-

  8. {{hugs}}} my son is 35.. and his father was killed in a car accident when I was 19..we were married but I do believe that he came into my life so that my son could come into the world...
    sending much love to you dear Mary.. we are more similar than we realise, I think xo