Monday, March 1, 2010

Oh, No, It's Monday Already

Good morning out there in blogland.  It's a sunny morning here in Brooklyn, but looks are deceiving.  It's windy, and there is quite a chill in the air.  The weatherman said it was going to go up to 48 degrees by Sunday.  Could that mean Spring is really on its way?

Yes, it's another Monday of those days when you want to pull the covers over your head and go back to sleep.  Actually, that's getting to be everyday for me.  I really, really DO want to much so that I am beginning to allow my inability to follow through on it make my life miserable.  I am just so tired of working.  Heck, my grandparents were retired at my age.  But, that was then and this is now.  And that is just something that I have to face.  I'm not making myself feel any better by constantly wishing and hoping for something that just cannot be right now.  This constant harping has become a great hindrance to my peace of mind.

"Nothing can bring you peace but yourself."--Ralph Waldo Emerson

It's true.  Once of the greatest hindrances to our peace of mind stems from the way we talk to ourselves in the privacy of our own minds.  "You can't do anything right.", "You should have known better.", "I can't stand this job.  I don't want to go to work anymore."  This unfriendly self-talk causes us great stress and unhappiness.  I once read a book called "Your Body Believes Every Word You Say".  Those little messages that we are constantly replaying over and over again in our minds, becomes our reality.  In my case, yes, I have a job that I an unhappy in; there is no denying that, but it most certainly doesn't help to keep reminding myself over and over again how MUCH I dislike it.  It becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy.  

True peace comes from the harmony we feel within ourselves.  We don't go out and find peace of mind; it's the result of what we do, of the messages we tell ourselves.  Harmony is being at ease with ourselves, with our lives.  This isn't an easy task for those of us who continually send negative messages to ourself, but creating empowering self-talk is not impossible.  It starts with acknowledging to ourselves in a positive way and then committing to do so.  

This doesn't mean that we must solve all of our problems before we can find inner peace, for life is much like a mountain road...full of twists and turns and unexpected bumps.  The "Serenity Prayer" says:

"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
The courage to change the things that I can, And the wisdom to know the difference."

Inner peace can be a reality if we accept that there are things we cannot change...and take up the challenges that we can.  Retirement is out of the question for me.  It is just a thought...a thought that has begun to take on a life of its own..a thought that has been causing me a great deal of stress and unhappiness...a thought that I know I will have to change if I ever hope to find inner peace.



  1. Ah Monday... its a scary thought yet today I woke up eager to start the week. ususally when I have such energy it means that there will something there for which it is needed... I am hoping it will just be a good week... enjoy your day Mary

  2. Courage Dear. We all have things which we would dearly love to change. But can't.

    So I'd say every adult human being, and sadly many who are not yet adults, have the same job on our hands. Finding peace inside, even when it isn't easy.

    Gentle hugs...

  3. I am another one who has alot of negative talk going on in the privacy of my own mind.. but oh how I want to change that!!
    I love your wisdom Mary.. I love your posts..each day they help me oxox
    wishing that you find peace inside today.. step by step we can do this!!

  4. Could you put "retirement" up on a dream board/list, so you have something to work toward? It may take years, but then the Universe might see fit to put you in a position that will allow you to retire sooner rather than later. (Checked my lotto ticket - no luck this time!)

    I know how Mondays are though - they are a bit icky!

  5. Ah, Rue...good idea. Sorry about the lotto. I remember when we first moved here I played the numbers of our house for 360 days, then gave up...on the 365th day it came out..straight. True story. I gave up after that.

    Aunt Amelia...I think what bothers me most and makes me want retirement is my health. Almost everyday now it is a struggle to make it up the subway stairs. My fibro is getting worse
    and years of smoking has not left me unscathed. I've just been feeling kind of miserable lately. Time to do some work on myself.

    Miss R...thank you so much for the wonderful words. Yes, step by step...and as we say in the recovery field...a day at a time.

    Mother Moon...I think you're in for a great week. And your energy will be needed for positive outlets.

  6. I need your wisdom daily too Mary. I wish you could find a way to make it happen. I know about the "things you cannot change" but how about "Life's what you make it..."
    Is there nothing at all you can do at home to earn money? I mean, write a book with all this awesome wisdom! You don't give yourself enough credit lady....
    Think hard about doing something to change the rut you're in. And get yourself out of that subway!!!

    Ok, off to life... (o:

  7. The weather today was gorgeous and warm, I do think that Spring is on the way. Retirement will come soon enough. I remember when my mother in law was counting down the days and now she misses working and the people that she worked with. The last time that I talked to her she let me to know that retirement wasn't all it is cracked up to be. LOL Wishing you a warm and wonderful week!


  8. ~wishing you PEACE of mind and kind thoughts for is a challenging position to be and something we think about and when...trying to prepare...this post is a nourishing one that i do believe all truth in we speak within and feel and what we put out there...comes forth...power of the mind...crazy how strong it really is...wishing you the best, answers to come and just thoughts are with you and i wish i had a great solution for you to be able to complete this cycle of working...brightest blessings~

  9. Retirement is not all it's cracked up to be Mary. I was forced into semi-retirement about a year ago when the economy went belly up. Was laid off at the tool and die shop I worked in. I will probably start doing some small carpentry jobs as soon as the weather warms up to supplement my income and keep me from playin in the streets. I know a stressful job can effect your health. Are there any possibilities for a different line of work for you? Wish you the best. X.

  10. Oh Mary, words I really needed to hear right now, thanks again