Wednesday, June 23, 2010
"We learn wisdom from failure much more than from success. We often discover what will do by finding out what will not do. And he who never made a mistake never made a discovery."--Samuel Smiles
Mistakes...regrets...who amongst us doesn't have them? I have many many memories of my past, and I can think of plenty of mistakes that I have made in my life...poor choices in relationships, addiction, dropping out of high school, my spur of the moment move to the city with $200 and two outfits of clothing. It would be so easy to sit back now as I prepare to enter my "so-called" twilight years and dwell on all the coulda's, woulda's, and shoulda's...but what good will that do? It's over, it's done...and, heck, the way I look at it, if I hadn't made those mistakes, I wouldn't be where I am now. It's quite possible that I never would have met my current husband, my soul mate, and I may regret marrying someone who was abusive and hateful, but if I hadn't met and married my him, I may not have had my two wonderful sons...Mistakes are how we learn our lessons in life. They are very much a part of who we are....and who we are in the process of becoming. And, isn't it something how, just one different choice can change one's entire life?
"Often regret is very false and displaced and imagines the past to be totally other than it was."--John O'donohue
There are probably many things in your own lives that you regret; none of us is perfect.... things you wish that you could take back, that you wish you had never done..., things that you wish you could do over again. But, the past is the past...no changing it...The important thing is we utilize the opportunity to learn from our past mistakes and move forward. We cannot go back and undo the the past; we must be willing let it be because the guilt or blame we may feel will take us out of harmony and balance. Once something is done, all you can do is your best from that point on. This doesn't mean that you forget what has happened, only that you do whatever needs to be done in order to let go of harmful energies such as anger, resentment, and guilt.
So, when you think back over your own life, what do you see? Missed opportunities? Hardship? Joy?
Hoping you all have a wonderful day.