Monday, January 28, 2013

Monday Morning This and That

We either make ourselves miserable, or we make

ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.

Carlos Castaneda

Well, it is Monday morning following a rather uneventful weekend.  I played hooky on Friday. I just wasn't into facing that brutal cold, although later on in the morning, I did head out to Rite Aid and the fruit stand.  Bought some  new candles in delicious warm weather scents--Cotton Comfort, Lake House, and Ocean Breeze (a triple header), Jasmine & Hyacinth, and Summer Rain. Saturday and Sunday were free days, oh, so free.  Nothing on my agenda.  Because I had taken off on Friday, I accomplished all my planned deeds on that day. 

On Saturday I was able to polish off "Soul Sisters", and although I thoroughly enjoyed the book, some of the chapters did open up some old wounds, but I am wondering if perhaps that is because I am finally ready to face them. They say that everything comes into our lives for a reason.  I guess that can even mean a book. Began reading "Circle of Stones: Woman's Journey to Herself" by Judith Duerk.  I'm sure many of you have already read this book. I loved it when I read it years ago and was thrilled to find it in Kindle form.  I love the way the author poses thought-provoking questions at the end of each chapter and then asks, "How might your life be different?" Really gives one food for thought.

Oh, before I forget, I finally opened a new checking account.  Of course, I am afraid that they might grab it like they did before so I plan to keep only a small amount in there.  I've checked my credit rating and nothing appears, but ironically, nothing appeared the last time either.  For those who don't know, about twenty odd years ago I co-signed for my ex-husband to get a credit card.  My credit was perfect, but he was having a problem, and in those days, one could co-sign for another.  I don't know if they still do that for a mere credit card. 

Well, to make a long story short, I left my ex shortly thereafter.  Don't know why I assumed that he took care of things.  Guess I was just plain naive at the time.  My ex died in 1996, and being that I was the co-signer it reverted to me.  I never knew anything about it because I NEVER received a bill so that credit card was the furthest thing from my mind until I went to the bank one morning to draw out my rent money and found that my account was minus $5,000. Ironically from 1996 to 2008 they sent everything to my old address, but miraculously found my new address and my bank account number when they wanted to. 

It turns out that my ex had run up the card to its max. The company had gone to court and won a judgment.  When the judgment wasn't paid, they turned it over to a collection agency.  After ten years, this collection agency went to court to again to hold the judgment for another ten years.   A judgment can be held open for twenty years, but only if they go to court again at ten years. If nothing is done within twenty years, the judgment is void. It seems that all around people were slimy about this.  My ex for allowing it to happen, the credit card company itself for not bothering to follow through on the judgment, and this sleazy collection agency who held this judgment until the ten years was almost over so they could drain the most money from me. Needless to say, I had to pull the rent money from my estate account, almost draining it. Then they proceeded to garnish my salary for almost two years. It is only now that I find myself able to get somewhat back on track, but now with hubby not working and going through these treatments, I seem to be at a standstill.  This is why I refuse to retire at this time.  I cannot afford to. 

Before closing, I wanted to share the above with you. This is the wall of the building next door.  The picture was taken from my kitchen window.  Yes, I know, not so pretty to look at, but I wanted to show you the two orbs. I took this picture on my camera almost a year ago, but was then unable to download it.  It took me this long to see it again.  Notice the star like symbol within.  I've gone outdoors from and looked from all angles, but have found nothing to explain these strange orbs.


  1. Mary, how horrible. This stuff makes me so angry. My ex didn't sell a property we shared, and I didn't take him back to court (which I should have.) I figured he was good at paying bills, so it would be alright. That part was, but that debt stayed on my credit rating and of course I was still responsible should he defaut. luckily he didn't, but if he had died, as yours did it would have been a different story. These are the details about divorce that attorneys (who we pay so much for) should make us aware of so that we could clean these things up before it's too late. I am so sorry this is keeping you from retiring. You sure have had your challenges in life. May things go smoother for you from now on.

    I love that pic. The orb is beautiful!

  2. I too have gone thru something similar Mary...thankfully we learn and grow eh? Sometimes life lessons are very expensive in more ways than one.

    Your orbs are very interesting indeed...I've never seen anything like them before...what is the building next door to you? Do you know its history? It'd be interesting to find out, or perhaps even the land it rests on.

    Have a beautiful day Sister/Friend! :)

  3. How this checking account is not touched!

    As to the orbs, I try to get them, in pics. And when I do, I love it.

    Reflections of light, into the camera lens, and stuff... Perhaps... Which our eyes don't seeeeeeeeeee, at the time. Perhaps, because it's going on, inside the camera.


  4. "Circle of Stones" is one of my fave. books and I remember using it in many rituals with some beloved female mentors when I was younger. I'll have to see if I still have my old copy and if not, get it on Kindle.

    I agree that those orbs are fascinating! What was going on with your life when you took the photo?

  5. So sorry to read about this awful financial situation. Disheartening.
    I don't know what to think about the orbs.

  6. Sorry you had to learn something the hard way. Seems that's the main way I get educated.
    Not trying to burst your orb, but I'm a practicle sort. Might have something to do with your kitchen window. It is neat tho. X.

  7. Hope your week is a very good one despite the weather Mary.

  8. Well that just sucks! As if this economy isn't bad enough. But thrilled that you took off on Friday and had some fun, able to get things done and have a couple of do nothing days. I love those days, not that they happen to often. Have missed you my sweet friend!